A lady of sixty got sick. She was out of bread. She wanted to ask her neighbor to go to the store, but she changed her mind. She ate soup without bread. And nothing: the body did not “swear”. But the main thing is different: she did not ask.
She had once been in a similar situation. She had no milk, and could not leave the house. A neighbor agreed to help. She brought her milk the next day. She couldn’t make it. And the sick woman waited and worried. But in the end she got by without milk.
She believes that it is impossible to violate the principle of his independence: never ask anyone anything. It is easier, and even, oddly enough, more interesting to live this way.
She realized this as a child, when she cheated off her friend’s test work. Everything opened up, and the trouble turned out.
A woman began to develop this principle of independence. You have to ask only as a last resort, when you can not ask.
For example, not to borrow money. Try to get by. You ask a friend, he will give. And what was he thinking? He will not admit it. What if he does not like it, for example, his wife. And he will have a displeasure in his inner world.
And you should not ask adult children, either. Also only as a last resort. If you have a really terrible attack. But otherwise, you can lie down, get up and cook the same noodles and eat them with sunflower oil. But don’t beg: you’ll sleep in peace. Then you’ll get better, and everything will be fine. It is better not to strain anyone.
Also for yourself and for yourself.
If the holiday is here, and you were not invited – son, daughter, girlfriend, just relatives – do not ask for it. Sit at home. Just do not feel sorry for yourself.
It’s very important not to feel sorry for yourself. Will appear in the head abnormal thought: children raised, and no one to go for milk – all. This resentment came, it will take away the last strength. Or: spent his entire pension, and his daughter does not ask if your father (or mother) has money? And you feel sorry for yourself. That’s resentment again. It will ruin your health and your relationship with your daughter.
That is to try not to ask anything at all. And then be happy that God helped me to do without asking. And I succeeded.
Not to ask for bread, money, or entertainment. No advice or hello. Then advice and hello and money and bread and sights will come.
I also experienced it. After asking, my soul is somehow stony. It is unpleasant, as if a cat took a shit. When you get around it, wake up your mind, you’ll be rewarded with a calm conscience.
