I’ve been married for ten years. And all these years I’ve watched in horror as my in-laws save money on everything. They buy the cheapest products, try to buy groceries on sale. And shoes and clothes in general are worn for years.
Of course, I understand that my husband’s parents are pensioners and therefore it is not easy for them. That’s why my husband and I began to help them. We buy them groceries, medicine, and pay for utilities. My husband and I even buy our children presents and tell them that they are gifts from their grandparents. And my husband’s parents only bring our children one chocolate bar for two on New Year’s Eve.
We all understand: that they just don’t have the money. I know that my mother-in-law couldn’t even make it to retirement. She said that she has a lot of health problems: a lot of dizziness, pain in all her joints, high blood pressure. She takes a lot of pills. But every year she gets some new disease.
My husband buys all the medicine for my mother. And medications are very expensive now. But I think it’s normal that my husband helps his parents. I thought: how do other pensioners live? They spend half of their pensions on medicines!
Now both my father-in-law and mother-in-law are retired. But my father-in-law still works part-time. I don’t know what their income is, but my husband’s parents save a lot on everything.
And three years ago I got out of maternity leave and my husband and I decided to buy an apartment with a mortgage. My husband’s parents gave us a million and a half, which was not enough for the down payment. I was very surprised when my husband’s parents gave us such a large sum of money.
My husband and I aren’t exactly lavish either. We have two children, we pay the mortgage. So it turns out that my husband’s salary is spent on the mortgage, and the four of us live on my salary. I now work remotely. My eldest son went to school this year and I take my youngest son to kindergarten. I have time to take care of the kids and work. My mother is always ready to help me.
To save money, we bought an apartment on the outskirts of town. But now my husband spends a lot of time getting to work. But he says he’s used to it by now. We hope to pay off the mortgage soon and be able to buy another apartment that would be closer to the center and be larger in size.
We are very grateful to my husband’s parents for helping us out. But we help them a lot for that, too. We go and do everything at the cottage. And I actually hate garden work.
A few years ago, my husband’s parents decided to renovate their apartment. They bought materials. And my husband and his father took a very long time to make repairs in the apartment: after all, my husband’s parents could not hire people who would make repairs quickly: they had no money for it. For three whole months my husband spent all weekends at his parents’ house and did repairs.
I think that my husband and I are living normally. We have a place to live, we are clothed and shabby, we are not hungry. We have children. But, on the other hand, it is very hard for us to pay the mortgage.
My husband spends very little time with our children, not because he doesn’t want to, but because he works so much. We never go on vacation. Our children have never seen the sea. And recently my mother-in-law called me. She was crying a lot. I couldn’t understand what had happened. So I called my husband and asked him to go to his parents.
It turned out that the scammers had scammed my father-in-law. The scammers called him and asked him to transfer money to a temporary account because his account had been hacked. The father-in-law believed them. In the end, the father-in-law transferred all the money himself. The bank refused to help. My husband went to the police together with my father and wrote a statement, but the chances that the scammers would be found and the money would be returned are minimal.
I almost fainted when I found out how much money my husband’s parents had managed to save. Swindlers had stolen as much as seven million rubles from them! I was just shocked!
My husband’s parents didn’t even buy our children any presents. They bought one chocolate bar for two. We helped them a lot, even though we ourselves had to live frugally.
At the same time, they had millions on their cards. Yes, the boomerang rule works! Life has confirmed this once again.
I don’t feel sorry for my parents: they should not have been so greedy. Then maybe they wouldn’t be in this situation.
