I am 31 years old and raising two daughters, ages 3 and 1, 24/7 – a conscious choice I made!
When I had a child of my own, I naively assumed that grandmothers would help at first. As it turned out, they did more harm than help, and I had to figure it all out myself.
I will tell you more in detail:
With the birth of my daughter, and especially after discharge, I felt not just helpless – but in general I could not understand which side of the baby to approach. What now, after two children, seems elementary – three years ago caused a general stupor in the house. Naturally, and his wife, as it turned out, “in the head” is nowhere written innate instructions for raising babies)).
For some reason I expected that the older, more experienced generation certainly knows how to swaddle, bathe, feed, cut nails, and what to treat. In general, I had to figure it out myself, because it quickly became clear that opinions differed, even on how to bathe))).
Naturally, your humble servant taught himself how to masterfully change diapers and more. I have a lot of respect and gratitude for everything for my mom and mother-in-law, but here’s what makes me smile:
Grandma 1 (aka my mother-in-law):
-You should read a prayer over the water and give the baby only water to drink.
-In half a year – I bought a filter, it makes water of the right structure – you should only drink it.
-At the same time – I sell shungite soap from Kazakhstan – it is necessary to wash the baby only with it. By the way, you should also rub irritation with it. By the way, and in the nose from a runny nose it should be smeared. By the way, it also helps with hemorrhoids.
-You bring up the children wrong – that’s why they get sick (I do not know what that’s about).
-So that the child does not scream – you need to take him to the fortune teller.
Grandma 2 (aka my mom):
– Screaming – no big deal, it will pass. Give me a pill – the fever will pass.
– You buy too many toys for children, you need to be more economical.
– I come on Saturday at one o’clock in the afternoon with my grandchildren to sit, though then I have to go to the movies with my daughter at 4, and so every weekend))). My sister lives with her mom, and she has about 3 hours a week for her grandkids)).
– Sweet, salty, it is possible to give to the child from 6 months practically. If the baby asks – you have to give everything a try.
I love my mom, but now I have a lot of questions about how she raised us!
What I was fed and treated, or not treated at all. We were often left at my grandmother’s, and as I remember, we ate custard Anacom (quick noodles) for days there, and they always cooked fat at home as well. As a child, my cough was ignored several times, and I ended up with whooping cough. Now I realize the cause of my pancreas problems, and my liver is more worn out than it should be.
Conclusion – I have a great attitude toward our grandmothers, but I can’t imagine trusting them with my kids for a few days. Under supervision, you’re welcome! I’m not paranoid, but I am scared)))
